Saturday, November 12, 2011

Romancing Your Spouse-Days 10-11: Waiting

Topic for the Weekend, Days 10-11:  Waiting

"Love is patient..."
1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (New International Version)

A Week of Patience:
We conclude our week of patience with a focus on the first 
three words of 1 Corinthians 13:4-8,  
"Love is patient..." (New International Version)

Question for Reflection:
Do I need to stop and wait before dealing with my spouse at times?

The Patience to Wait:
With regard to waiting, and to help me exercise patience, I often think of Psalm 21:14:

"Wait on the LORD: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the LORD." 
(KJV, King James Version of the Bible)                            

When it comes to romancing our spouse, sometimes timing is everything. Not to stereotype, but men tend to be visual creatures who get turned on quickly by what they see. Whereas some women may prefer a slower build up to intimacy, with romantic gestures and flourishes over the course of several days.

I've learned to wait for the right time to give my wife a shoulder massage, or even a kiss on the cheek when she's at work on her computer. A well intended moment may be attempted at the wrong time. Again, timing is often everything in life. Especially when we understand that God's Time is NOT Our Time. We need to pray for Him to reveal the proper timing in what we do so--that we don't rush ahead on our on accord and mess stuff up! : )

Think about the timing of your romantic gestures. When should you wait to do certain things? Again, it goes back to the small, attentive things: Prayer for guidance and direction. Being a good servant. Putting the needs and desires of our mate ahead of ours.

Put yourself in your spouse's romantic shoes. There are certain things you like that you wish your spouse would do for you--same applies to them. Communicate and clarify what your spouse wants from you--if you don't know for sure. Sometimes we think things should be obvious to a loved one, but often, we're just too close to see the big picture when we're standing so close to the image before us.
Sunday's Assignment:
Same as last Sunday and every Sunday to follow for the rest of your Earthly Life : ) --attend worship service this weekend.

Whether it be the traditional Sunday morning service,
or some other form of weekend worship, such as Bible study,
in your relationship with Christ and with each other.

Hold hands on your way in and out of your house of worship.

If appropriate, and it feels comfortable, hold hands
during the worship service.
Thanks for reading this devotional and
have a blessed weekend!
           --Steve Kendall